Ballroom Orlando discusses trust and karma

The crucial ingredient in a successful relationships is trust. Without trust, a relationship is destined for failure. When divorced couples were asked why their relationships failed, the number one answer? A relationship trust problem.

The crucial ingredient for a great danceis trust, too. The follower dances backwards for most of any dance. Trust is essential or a follower doesn’t follow well.

A visual example might be book ends. One book end is pressing in and the other book end is pressing in – and together they hold up the books. If an untrusting book end leaves their post and runs over to the other side to check up on the other book end. . . . all the books fall. This concept holds true in ballroom dancing, one partner cannot worry about the other partner’s dance steps or they will fail at their own dance steps.

The secret language in a relationship is to take all the steps you need to take in order to make you the best you. Allow the other book end – or person in this example - to take their own steps to improve themselves. Allow them to make their own mistakes, sow their own good or bad seeds or build or destroy their own integrity. Your concern? Your steps. The Good Book says, “Let your yes be your yes and your no be your no.”

Many relationship trust issues are sprouted when one person doubts the trust of their partner. It is the responsibility of each person to stay focused on keeping their own steps in order. If they worry less about the other person and concern themselves to stay focused on improving themselves, trust problems begin to vaporize.

Think the best of each other because thinking the best builds trust in your relationship. A funny example might be the husband who came home early and found a truck driver eating at his dinner table. With a smile the husband exclaimed, “My wife is such a terrific cook that men come from miles away just to eat here!” Be positive. Be encouraging. Be the best you.

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Keeping an attitude of optimism is essential when learning how to ballroom dance. An optimist is someone who always sees the bright side of your problem. Missed steps, toe stepping or being off beat happens more often than not on the dance floor. With conscious effort, we can take wrong steps and make them into right steps and gain some karma along the way. “How’s that?” you say?

Karma is what you receive from the universe for the way you treat others. Karma moves in two directions: If we do good deeds, we receive good karma. If we do bad deeds, then we receive bad karma. The Good Book has a similar version of karma, it is called sowing a seed. “Whatsoever you sow, so shall you reap.” (Hosea 10: 12). You plant the seed of forgiveness, then you sow the harvest of forgiveness.

On the dance floor, we can change our step to match our partner. If we are really good, then our partner won’t even know they messed up. Oooo, more favorable karma in the bank.

In my life, I want all the good karma I can muster. I need to plant as many good seeds as I possibly can. Saving good karma for a rainy day seems like a good action plan, because I always seem to mess up – even ballroom dancing here in Orlando.When I mess up, I want to receive forgiveness. I want to receive understanding and grace. That means I need to jump on every opportunity to forgive that comes my way.

Then the next time I need forgiveness, I’m much likelier to receive forgiveness from a person I have granted forgiveness to in the past. Don’t think of it as “You owe me!” Instead, think of it as reciprocal gratefulness.

Remember, someday soon you’ll may need to withdraw from your bank of karma when you make a mistake. The Good Book says, “It is better to give than to receive,” and now’s your chance to give - - give forgiveness.

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